Dr. Caprica Wells

A healing homecoming—caregivers, family, and a cheer camp story that came full circle. Legacy lives in the moments we never forget. #DOYOU #

The Performance of Perfection For years, I wore my mask well. It looked like confidence, professionalism, and control. But underneath it was exhaustion, anxiety, and fear of being seen as “not enough.” The mask helped me survive, but it also kept me disconnected from myself, my team, and my purpose. I was so busy appearing composed that I forgot what it felt like to just be . Leadership doesn’t require performance; it requires presence. The Moment I Took It Off It wasn’t a dr

When Silence Feels Safer There were times I swallowed words I should have said. Not because I didn’t know what to say, but because I feared how it would be received. The tightrope between professionalism and authenticity can feel especially thin for Black women in leadership. We know that tone will be analyzed, confidence mistaken for arrogance, passion misread as aggression. So, silence becomes survival. But silence also becomes suffocating. I’ve learned that my voice is not

When Rest Feels Like a Risk I used to wear exhaustion like a badge of honor. It meant I was working hard, staying visible, doing everything “right.” But all it really meant was that I was tired, distracted, and disconnected from myself. Rest felt risky because I equated it with falling behind. I didn’t realize that I was already falling behind, just in ways that couldn’t be measured on a chart. Redefining Productivity The more I rested, the clearer I became. I started realizi

When Rest Feels Risky For years, I believed slowing down meant falling behind. I measured success by how much I could get done, how many projects I could manage, and how many people I could help at once. But somewhere along the way, I realized that the more I accomplished, the less I actually felt. Rest wasn’t my rhythm; it was my reward, and I rarely let myself reach it. The truth is, when you live in constant motion, you start mistaking momentum for meaning. Learning to Pau

When Achievement Becomes a Shield For most of my life, achievement was how I proved my worth. The degrees, the titles, the leadership roles; they all made me feel seen, valued, and safe. But the truth is, overachievement wasn’t about success; it was about survival. I was performing excellence to avoid disappointment, striving for validation that was never meant to sustain me. Every time I checked a box, I lost a little more of my peace. The Hidden Price of Performing Overachi

When Everything Feels Urgent I used to think that good leadership meant quick answers and constant motion. If something went wrong, I was the first to jump in, fix it, and move on. But what I didn’t realize was that my constant motion created more noise than clarity. Over time, I learned that chaos feeds on reaction. When I’m anxious, my team becomes anxious. When I move too fast, I miss what’s actually unfolding. Calm leadership isn’t passive—it’s powerful. It shifts the ene

When Leadership Meets Healing No one tells you that leadership will expose everything you’ve buried. Pressure has a way of revealing pain that rest once kept quiet. And as I’ve grown, I’ve realized that leading others well requires leading myself through my own healing. Healing is not separate from leadership; it’s part of it. It shapes how we manage conflict, respond to stress, and build trust. The stronger our emotional core, the steadier our leadership becomes. The First C

When Growth Feels Like Discomfort The word stretch  sounds empowering until you’re in the middle of it. Stretching means expanding beyond what’s comfortable, confronting what’s hidden, and holding steady when old habits want to pull you back. For a long time, I equated growth with achievement: degrees, promotions, milestones. But the real growth happened in the quiet moments when no one was clapping. It happened when I stopped asking, “What do people need from me?”  and start

When Presence Becomes Performance For a long time, I thought leadership was about showing up perfectly composed, confident, and in control, no matter what was going on inside. I’d walk into rooms where my competence spoke louder than my comfort, and my authority masked my authenticity. But over time, I began to realize that how  I show up is a reflection of who  I believe I am. And if my identity is rooted in performance instead of purpose, then my presence becomes a performa

Sometimes “I’m fine” is a shield we use to survive the day. But silence can become heavy. This is what I’ve learned about letting others see the weight behind my smile.

When Leadership and Healing Collide There was a time when I believed I had to be completely whole before I could lead others. That was before I realized that leadership, like healing, is a journey, one that rarely happens in a straight line. I used to think healing meant stepping away, waiting until I felt “ready” again. But the truth is, life doesn’t always offer the perfect pause. Responsibilities keep calling. Teams still need direction. Family still needs presence. And so

Chaos is loud. It demands our attention, drains our energy, and convinces us that busyness equals progress. But order—true order—is quiet power. It’s the structure that allows purpose to breathe. What Order Really Is Order isn’t about control. It’s about alignment . It’s when your people, processes, and purpose move in the same rhythm. It’s the invisible framework that turns pressure into peace and motion into momentum. When you operate in order, your decisions become clearer

by Dr. Caprica L. Wells | Reaching Through | #DOYOU #REACHTHRU There’s a silent expectation many women carry, that we must do it all  and do it perfectly . Be the leader and the nurturer. Be strong and still be soft. Be available for everyone else and somehow also find time to heal ourselves. We call it “the Superwoman Syndrome". But what if that cape we’ve been wearing isn’t strength, it’s a disguise? The Mask of Overachievement Somewhere along the way, we learned that our w

A reflection on stepping into answered prayers, even when it feels uncomfortable or undeserved. Answered Prayers & Identity: Becoming Without Apology Becoming is beautiful—and disorienting. Answered prayers sometimes arrive wrapped in responsibility, growth opportunities, and rooms you once felt unqualified to enter. Don’t minimize the miracle because it asks for a new version of you. It is time to meet the moment. Faith and Identity: Receiving What You Asked For This is the

A transparent look at what happens when your calling creates unexpected pressure that needs boundaries. Some days purpose feels like a soft nudge. Other days, it feels like a brick on your chest and makes it hard to breathe. When your calling starts costing more than you expected: time, energy, relationships; it’s easy to confuse purpose with pressure. But purpose isn’t here to crush you; it’s here to bring you a sense of clarity. I’ve learned that “yes” without boundaries tu

Why I Wrote This Book For most of my life, I mastered the art of performing strength. I carried the weight of perfection, leadership, and expectation — all while wearing a mask that said, “I’m fine.” But behind the achievements, the titles, and the relentless drive was a woman who was tired. A woman who had learned that overachievement could be both her armor and her prison. The Cost of Resilience I wrote Another Face of Trauma: Removing the Mask of Overachieving  because I w

A transparent look at what happens when your calling costs more than you expected — and how to carry purpose with grace instead of exhaustion. Some days purpose feels like a soft nudge. Other days, it presses on your chest and steals your breath. When your calling starts costing more than you expected—time, energy, relationships—it’s easy to confuse purpose with pressure. But purpose isn’t here to crush you; it’s here to clarify you. I’ve learned that “yes” without boundaries

Healing doesn’t always look like a breakthrough. Sometimes it’s the quiet decision to pause, breathe, and begin again. Discover the peace.

Perfection keeps us stuck. We believe that if we’re not ready, not flawless, not fully healed, we can’t begin. But healing doesn’t...